Wednesday, July 9

We didn't bring the kitchen sink ...

... although E. asked if we could bring his play kitchen.

Last week, we visited the lake, stayed at my grandparents' cottage (read free vacation), boated, swam, harvested lake weeds, and fed the mosquitos.

It was nice to get away, to leave behind the daily distractions - the computer, laundry, dishes, laundry, cleaning, diapers, dishes, eating, laundry, diapers ...

I guess we didn't leave it all behind, but there is something so wonderful, relaxing, refreshing, about leaving behind so many of our *things*. I've heard it said, that no matter how big a house you have, you will find enough things to fill it up. We sure love our things here, and they are filling up all the space we have. Unpack and put away one box, and there are still more to follow. Throw everything from the floor of the living room into bags and other things will, as if by magic, appear. I've designated a basket in the corner of the room as "things to take upstairs". There are two partially unpacked boxes and another basket of "things I don't know where to put." On the back stairs reside "things to go downstairs," "things to plant," and "things that we didn't want to leave outside so they were left here instead." AD and I both seem to have inherited the mindset of "waste not, want not." Interpreted another way, you could say, we can't ever seem to get rid of any thing. This is a mild exaggeration, but true enough to affect the way we live. And, of course, the boys learn our habits as well.

Most days, thankfully, I don't worry too much about the mess, but some days it just gets to me. More things means, of course, more things for which I don't have time, don't care to take the time, to care/clean/organize/remove. Pieces of games, toys, and puzzles are spread throughout the house. I try to remember, if it is not my game, toy, or puzzle, that it is fine for the boys to play as they will, and to take responsibility for their own things. But with so many things to choose from, a missing part of one or another leaves little impression on them. I worry what lessons about consumption we teach the boys with so many things around.

Stepping back, I realize we have far fewer things than some, and we do regularly give away or donate whatever we can bear to part with. I also realize that moving 6 times in the past 5 years, 5 years during which we added two more members to our family (even if they re-used a lot of the same baby things), and during which we inherited many things from one who helped to teach us our habit, has taken its toll. I hope we hope stay here long enough to un-shop, de-clutter, and find some semblance of organization for our things. Even so, I'm sure our home will never look like a model, or have any consistent interior decoration other than 'eclectic'.

In the interim,we can visit the lake whenever *things* are fogging our vision, and leave (most of) them behind.

Now, back to the laundry ...

7 comments:

mb said...

ahhh, i can relate with this more than i can say.
movin' and shakin' and piles O joy.

it will all declutter as we settle down; we;ll see our lives and be able to breath more, take in less stuff.

i'm here with ya.

mb

Lilian said...

Yes, I can totally relate -- our home is very similar in its messiness, lack of clear decoration scheme, and toys strewn all over the place. We also want to declutter, get rid of things we don't need, and get organize. May we all be able to do it together!

Shelli said...

I can relate to this too. How I would like to declutter, but there is always something else to do! And as far as decorating - we just don't have the budget for it. Right now my living room is decorated with toys, and my dining room is a parking lot for a jogging stroller and three toy "cars" that my little one can ride - don't ask me how he acquired THREE of these.

Cheryl said...

glad to know i'm not the only one buried from time to time. your comments and friendship are fresh air.

jena strong said...

This is my dream, too. I'm such a tension between tchotchke-lover and stuff-purger.

Always strikes me when we're away, too - the kids are so happy with three books and some crayons.

And always, the laundry. Thank god for that!

beth said...

you know what? I've always loved stuff....I guess I still do....but now I can leave a store without buying anything and feel so good inside !!!

Our cottage is furnished sparsely and I love it....now our house on the other hand...ummmm, well I wish I could say the same thing....but where do I feel the most relaxed at...you got it, the cottage !!!

When there isn't stuff around, I think we all breathe easier and our minds have the ability to really soak in our thoughts and dreams !!!

And so with our house....we are slowly getting rid of our things and it doesn't bother me one bit....I love the extra breathing space !!!

but I don't have little ones anymore....when I did....well, I had sore feet from stepping on the little plastic toys that grew on my floors each night when I went to bed....how does that happen anyhow ???

Mika said...

I hear you, I long for a house with little in it, but I get such a thrill from shopping...